How to Write The Perfect Online Dating Email

How to Write The Perfect Online Dating Email

Posted by on Sep 9, 2013 in Articles |

Writing the perfect online dating email in online dating is the one thing that can make or break you. Mess up and you’ve lost your chance before you have even begun. It’s always difficult making the first move however with a little bit of confidence and better writing technique you’re sure to improve your chances with online dating.


Below you will find some of our top tips in crafting your perfect online dating email.


Make sure that you read their profile properly. You’re looking to see that not only are they what you want but that you are also what you want.


Start with a little about them. Maybe notice a connection or two: that you’re into the same thing or that you like something about them.


Let them know a little about you. Without going all out and telling them a life story let them get to know you too.


Ensure that you include something about you that they are looking for such as if they are seeking out a funny person or an easy-going one. Show them how they match you.


Try to keep your online dating email short and to no more than 100 words. This is very important. If it’s too long the reader might think that it’s generically copied or the recipient may feel it’s too much.


Watch the tone of your email and make sure that it’s upbeat and positive.


Never draw attention to any of your shortcomings or put yourself down in a negative way. It’s very easy for a person with low self-esteem to point out the things that they don’t like about themselves immediately. This is a coping mechanism for a person who feels this way as they like to point out their issues before another person notices them. Usually the negative issues are all in their head and the recipient would never have know any better had they not said anything.


Say goodbye and make sure that you leave on a positive note such as “hope to hear from you soon” or “love to chat”.



We hope you have found the above advice helpful if you need to craft a great online dating email. Overall it’s about keeping it short and remaining positive. And at the end of the day if you don’t get a response, remember, just leave it and never follow up with a “did you get my last email?”. The chances are that a person may reject you for many reasons, and a lot of them may have nothing to do with you as a person – but a least for one thing you can be certain that it’s not for your bad email techniques.